Fussy Fella

Quite a few people ask why I am called “Fussy Fella” on here. Why am I Fussy and in what way?

It actually goes back to a dating site I was on sometime ago. I was getting fed up with so many of the women being extremely fussy in what they wanted with men and then complaining they could find no-one, I thought I would put up a page that struck back for men by being just as fussy. It was meant as a joke but the surprising thing was how many took it seriously and lambasted me for it - usually the ones with the fussiest pages themselves.

The real joke though was I was not actually all that prescriptive or proscriptive in what I like in women. I do like it when a woman makes an effort to look good but I also realise she can’t all the time. I do have some preferences like everyone but ultimately what really matters to me is that a woman is confident in herself and what she is.

This Blog should give you a hint of my likes. I hope you enjoy.

For those curious this is what the “fussy” bit of that old profile said. Take it with the pinch of salt intended:

Firstly, you must be bright of manner and intelligent of mind. Non negotiable. Higher Education is not essential (although it is preferred) but being able to write proper English is although allowances will be made for those for whom it is not their first language.

Looks are not as important as mind but not unimportant. I like ladies who make the most of themselves - less about your body, much more about how you exploit what you have. Good hair, make-up and clothes for the right occasion are important. Do you look good in a cocktail dress? What about jeans and a t-shirt or a swimming costume? My ideal woman will know she can look good in any of these things.

Hair colour: I like blondes, I like brunettes, and I like redheads. Mousey is not really good but since ladies can choose their hair colour that can be fixed can’t it? If you do dye you hair though, make sure you maintain it properly and the roots do not show. Some of my friends think me odd, but I am also quite attracted to women with wild hair colours: reds, purples, greens or mixes on the right person seem to shout a sexy independent personality.

Body shape is a lower priority still and I am attracted to ladies of all shapes and sizes. I like curves if you have them but let’s be honest clinically obese is going too far. Similarly a toned body can be nice but bony and anorexic is not.

Height does not really matter at all to me but if forced my preference is for petite ladies up to about 5’4”.

Skin colour, race or cultural background are totally unimportant. If you are someone with prejudices in that area walk on by - one of the fastest ways to turn me off is spouting any form of bigotry.

So is that fussy enough and is there anyone up to the challenge of saying hello?